What makes a woman strong? Is it her ability to lead marches and political movements? Is her contribution to her cause? Is it her actual physical strength and physique? Is it the strong walls she builds around herself to guard her emotions and her heart?
I have been blessed to have a lot of strong women in my life. I was raised by one and I’m fortunate to have them in my family tree and call them my friends. I have read about them in the Bible. I have worked for and with them. I’ve competed against them and have been taught and helped by them. You shouldn’t be surprised to learn that my definition of “strong woman” is far from what current culture says it is. Here are some of the characteristics of a strong woman exemplified by the strong women in my life:
She Says Thank You
A strong woman is not too proud to say thank you when a kind gesture is directed her way. She knows that she can’t do it all and is appreciative of those helping hands. Humility and the ability to say “thank you” shows a lot of strength in one’s character.
She Gives a Compliment
In a “me first, look at me world”, she grants compliments to others. She knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of a compliment from a fellow sister and she shares the love by reciprocating those feelings to those around her. She builds up those she loves with her encouraging words.
She Doesn’t One Up
A strong woman is encouraging and happy for the accomplishments of others. She knows that everyone has a story to tell and doesn’t try to steal the spotlight of the conversation. She is genuine and sincere in her speech.
She Keeps Her Mouth Shut
She knows the tongue is like a rudder of a ship; it takes a lot of strength to control a component so mighty. She knows that her words can be powerful and does her best to avoid gossip. She doesn’t cut down her husband to her friends, and doesn’t make herself look better by tearing down others.
In my opinion, a strong woman shows all of the opposite traits of what society says a strong woman should have. She admits her weaknesses, she is humble, she looks after the feelings of others, she isn’t loud, and she serves others before herself.
I’m so thankful to have strong women in my life to pave the way for me and show me how it’s done. I just hope that I can be that strong woman and teach my daughter the way these women are teaching me.